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  • Writer's pictureMegan Filoramo

The space between

This morning I was feeling a little frustrated with where certain things are in my life versus where I want them to be. I’m sure you can relate.

But as I was thinking about this, I was reminded of something I read this week by Susan Donnelly, a running coach that I follow. She said, “there is a lot of room between 100% injured and 100% healed”.

This struck me because I realized how easy it is to fall into polarized thinking, all or nothing, good or bad.

But what about the space between?

The space between

A hot mess or totally put together

Exhausted or energized

Overwhelmed or productive

Procrastinating or accomplished

Unhealthy or healthy

Impatient or patient

Bad relationship or good relationship

Totally out of shape or in shape.

What about the SPACE BETWEEN?

Really think about it.

All of these things are really on a continuum. If we acknowledge the space between then we can wedge ourselves in there and away from the judgment of failure or the elusive mirage of 100% success or completion.

The truth is, we will never be at one end of the spectrum or the other in every category, all of the time. And to take it one step further, there isn’t really even a solid end to either side of the spectrum, there is always the possibility to push the “end” further from the other end.

I realized there are many parts of my life that I don’t even consider the idea of progress vs. polarity, areas like co-managing home and work and health. If I take away the idea of success vs failure and put myself in the space between then I can start working on making progress rather than attaining achievement.

Phew. That sounds a lot more compassionate, doable, AND enjoyable.

Life is made up of the space between.

And that’s ok.

Actually, that’s great.

If you want to move closer toward one end of the spectrum, this can be done in small increments, on a daily, or semi-daily, or periodic basis.

It all counts because it’s the space between.

If we can remember this, we can move away from frustration. We won’t give up.

And ultimately, we can make the progress we crave.


If you need some support working through your space between, I am here for you. Schedule a time to talk here.

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